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| YOU ARE NOT ME, I AM NOT YOU: Based On True Facts |
"...It's not like I haven't seen other people o, the thing about me is that I don't like changes. When I like a thing or a person, it's hard for me to like another. I hate change.
"You see this my state, I just like it, that's why I can't travel out: I dislike traveling. I don't want to leave my town. Let me be my local champion and stay there, I like it that way. "I think I'll change later in life, but I'm getting old, so I might never change." I was really surprised when I heard that this morning from a lady I've always admired. I got tempted to argue with her and tell her the relevance of traveling out and accepting change, but something struck me:
"The difference in personality."
I remembered that everybody must not be like me, like the same things I do, or have the same view like I do as regards certain things. I had to let her be. If that had worked, and is still working for her at her age, then it's her way. Of course, she's way older than I am, I have no business telling her how to live her life. Until humans understand the concept of diversity in personality, the world will still be too hot a place for some people to live in. Most often than not, it proves extremely difficult to accept a difference in view.
Everybody has brain, everybody thinks. Some correctly, others otherwise.
If you think that your perception, way of life, and beliefs must be accepted by everyone and at all times, then I must say that you are one of the world's greatest problems. Most killings, maimings, hatred and discrimination that the world is facing today are traced to the difference in beliefs, race, culture, religion, class, etc.
What works for you might not work for another.
If you see that a person is in the wrong, it is okay to give your most sincere advice, but do not force them to take it and don't pick offence if they refuse it.
- You are not a god that everyone must obey.
- You have no idea about the different experiences the person has been through to come up with that resolution.
- If the person encounters failure in the course of doing your forced will, you might forever remain an enemy or be remembered negatively.
- Most people are naturally stubborn, it will be a waste of breath on your side.
- Some people need to have the experience in order to learn, you can't beat that.
If a person you sincerely advised finds another way to handle an issue successfully without doing your bid, be happy that the issue is fixed, don't sulk because your method was not employed. Our collective experiences and exposure have moulded us differently, hence the need to live life based on our own definition. You're different, I'm different. Our beliefs shape our reality, let's not rob one another the essence of our existence and self worth by forcing our will on others.
State clearly your opinion, and if it is convincing enough, it might be accepted and adopted, but force no one to live by it.
In the end, we will be responsible and accountable for the things we did or did not do.
Live and let live.
© Mfon Ekott
Writer, Linguaphile.
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